Hello Angel,
I am a pastor always hosting and travelling for conferences. I have a beautiful wife and a beautiful daughter. My wife has been a thorn in my flesh, always distracting and discouraging me from the work of God. She has been complaining of my travelling around the world to preach the Gospel, and I thought she will get used to it. Lo and behold, I caught her 3days ago in our matrimonial home on our matrimonial bed with another man, She was shocked to see me because I came back home before the time I told her just to surprise her and make it up to her for her continual nagging and complaining about my absence. What I got on reaching home was seeing another man on top my woman, I was devastated, It broke me to pieces.
The man fled the scene naked immediately I caught them, My wife knelt down apologizing and has since gone back to her parents house. She has been calling me for the past 3 days with her family, I didn't pick up. I have received series of messages too and I didn't reply. I am still broken and confused. I don't know what to do. I don't want my Church members to find out about this and that means I have to forgive her and act as if nothing happened and I can't. I am too hurt to let this go, though deep down I still love my wife. What should I do ?
My Reply: Adultery is the only reason the Lord permits us to divorce, So if you are going for a divorce you have Scriptural permission to do so. Nevertheless, God hates divorce and would prefer you forgive and keep your wife. The thing I think really caused this is because you married your choice and not God's will for you. You made mentioned that she has been a distraction and discouragement to you preaching the Gospel and that is not good, So this might be an opportunity to discharge her and do what God called you to do if she is unwilling to repent. I think another thing that caused this is that your wife is carnally minded and not Spiritual. Can two walk to together if they don't agree ? No. You should have asked God's opinion and know God's will for you before getting married. Nevertheless, Take sometime, Pray and ponder before you make any move of taking her back or not. Don't mind what people will say, Don't make decision based on what people will say. Be sure of making the right decision before making the move. Make a decision led by the Lord and you won't regret it. In conclusion, Whether you take her back or not, Forgive her.
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